Keeping The Marriage Alive
Mama : Ok, let's go to bed. Papa balik lewat malam ni.
Mayesa : Mama, can we just sleep here tonight?
Mama : We sleep upstairs ok kakak? Kalau tidur sini, papa kena dukung kakak and adik naik atas pula nanti. Siapa pula nak angkat mama?
Mayesa : Takpe mama. Papa boleh dukung mama sekali.
Mama : Patah lah pinggang papa dukung mama.
Mayesa : Alaa masa kahwin dulu boleh dukung. Sama je lah nanti papa dukung mama.
Mama : Hahaha. Ok lah nanti kakak suruh papa dukung mama juga ok?
Mayesa : Mengada je. Masa kahwin boleh. Sekarang patah pinggang - patah pinggang pula.
What a slap in the face.
It's true though. We tend to ignore the intimacy we once had before kids came into the picture. Bukan kata nak salahkan anak-anak, atau penat kerja, atau umur dah lanjut; somehow the intimacy level decreased to such a low point if not none at all.
Mungkin tak semua pasangan macam ni (Alhamdulillah good for you) but us, yes us, kinda lost some sparks. Don't really know who to blame but ourselves. We are defintely happy together, please don't think or du'a otherwise. Cuma tak ada sangat dah sweet-sweet, romantik-romantik ni. When either one made the initiative, yang lagi seorang mesti pekik 'buang tebiat ni dah kenapa?'. LOL
We had a talk about this, and a quick suggestion we both immediately agreed upon is that we need more time to ourselves. One, on our own, meaning solo. To unwind, to destress from our many responsibilities. Two, as a couple, as husband and wife. To re-live the sparks, to keep our love growing and not just slowly dreading nor dying as a boring-unromantic-old-couple.
But we keep procrastinating and tak tahu lah bila nak have some quiet time to just relax and unwind a little without the kids tagging along for a while.
But first thing first, about my daughter's request....
I still dont't get a lift into bed.
I doubt I'm going to have one.
LOL.
What a slap in the face.
It's true though. We tend to ignore the intimacy we once had before kids came into the picture. Bukan kata nak salahkan anak-anak, atau penat kerja, atau umur dah lanjut; somehow the intimacy level decreased to such a low point if not none at all.
Mungkin tak semua pasangan macam ni (Alhamdulillah good for you) but us, yes us, kinda lost some sparks. Don't really know who to blame but ourselves. We are defintely happy together, please don't think or du'a otherwise. Cuma tak ada sangat dah sweet-sweet, romantik-romantik ni. When either one made the initiative, yang lagi seorang mesti pekik 'buang tebiat ni dah kenapa?'. LOL
We had a talk about this, and a quick suggestion we both immediately agreed upon is that we need more time to ourselves. One, on our own, meaning solo. To unwind, to destress from our many responsibilities. Two, as a couple, as husband and wife. To re-live the sparks, to keep our love growing and not just slowly dreading nor dying as a boring-unromantic-old-couple.
But we keep procrastinating and tak tahu lah bila nak have some quiet time to just relax and unwind a little without the kids tagging along for a while.
But first thing first, about my daughter's request....
I still dont't get a lift into bed.
I doubt I'm going to have one.
LOL.
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